Wednesday, April 13, 2016



I was regretting the past 
And fearing the future. 
Suddenly my Lord was speaking:

“My name is I Am.” He paused. 
I waited. He continued,
When you live in the past 
With its mistakes and regrets, 
It is hard. I am not there, 
My name is not I WAS”.

When you live in the future 
With its problems and fears, 
It is hard. I am not there. 
My name is not I WILL BE.

When you live in this moment, 
It is not hard. I am here. 
My name is I AM. 

~Helen Mallicoat
Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Bloom Where You Are Planted

One Year.

One year since I've had the presence of mind to write a blog post.

I shutter to think of all that we were forced to endure over this past year, but can honestly say we are better off now regardless of all of the turmoil.

What started as a corporate transfer turned into a dreadful disaster. All because of one hot headed board chairman. One selfish greedy person impacted our family in ways HE could care less about.

Little did we know that in Rhode Island, your employer can get rid of you for any reason and not have to give an explanation. It is called an "At Will" employment law in the state and they can employ you or change their mind about your employment without giving any reasons as to why you are hired or fired. Unsettling to say the least. The Rhode Island lawyers and judges take great pride in their "At Will" status and won't even hear a case that tests it's legalities. Not only that, but the average family in New England can't afford to take something like an "At Will" employment case to court.

This news of my husband's eliminated position with the Rhode Island company was delivered to us ON our moving day.

It took a long time for us to wrap our heads around such an abrupt change in our lives.

Thankfully, our family 500 miles away took us in temporarily until we could make a new plan.

Our faith in God, and the many prayers and help from our families and friends helped us through a very rough time.

We are not certain of many things in this life, but we ARE certain that God has a great plan in each of our lives. Our faith has been tested many times ~ but a peace that surpasses ALL understanding has encompassed our hearts and minds in a way like never before.

What we have learned:

Everyone has a choice to be bitter or to get better.

Lean on your spouse for support and make decisions together. Your wedding vows "for better or for worse" are biblical and are to be taken very seriously.

Consider other people's feelings before reacting to your own feelings.

The good guy doesn't always win.

There is always one bad egg in the batch.

Trust your gut feelings. Pray for the Lord's clarification. He works in mysterious ways.

Having faith in God and deeply rooted integrity trumps ALL. 

Make the best of every situation and bloom where you are planted. 

Be willing to learn something new everyday. 

The eyes of our children are watching us closely. Think and pray before you react.

Laughter IS the best medicine. 

Our family has recently settled in beautiful rural Georgia. Our story is still being written and our faith in God's great plan to unfold is bigger than ever. My plan is to get back into writing and maybe share some of the hair raising stories that have occurred over this past year. Some have suggested I write a book about it all. I'd rather not dwell on any of it. Blogging about a few key events is all the time I wish to give any of it. Blooming and spreading my roots in the right here and right now is a huge blessing to me. Lord willing.... I fully intend to bloom well.

For I am confident of this very thing, 
that He who began a good work in you 
will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. 
~Philippians 1:6

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Speak Without Accusing

Everyone has a subject that they are passionate about.

Dig down you know what that one thing is in your life that you just so happen know a lot about? 

It's been my observation in life that the older a person is, the more subject matters they have an opinion about. If you think about it, a person that is older than you has had more experiences in life. Fortunately or unfortunately, as people get older they seem to be more and more willing to share their opinions with others, whether they are asked for or not. 

What would happen if you met someone who knew more than you about a subject you were interested in. What if you met an expert? What if YOU were the expert?

My suggestion to look at ourselves is by no accident. How we respond to others is so important. 

When teaching our children to ride their bikes without training wheels, I remember being very frustrated. I can ride a bike very well, but this was a skill our kids had not grasped yet. Instead of yelling at them for not trying hard enough and belittling them, my husband and I chose to encourage them, run beside them, and hold onto them until they were comfortable to take off and ride on their own. 

Our words are so important. They can either breathe life into someone or scorn them in defeat. 

I love the messages in the book of James. While praying about this subject, I enjoyed reading James 1:19 in different translations of the bible. This is the translation I enjoyed the most from The Message:
Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: 
Lead with your ears, 
follow up with your tongue, 
and let anger straggle along in the rear. James 1:19 

Do you think it is an accident that James found it necessary to tell his friends to "Post this message at all the intersections"?  He wanted the word to get out. James wanted the principal he was conveying to reach all people, in every corner of the land. 

Today I challenge you to consider how you interact with others. Do you listen to people and let them talk before you offer a response? When is the last time you really heard someone talk about a subject they were passionate about? 

Personally, I've been on the accused side of the conversation way too often. It's not pleasant. At. All. Some people choose to live in suspicion of everyone around them, afraid that someone will be superior to them. Some people feel so threatened by others knowing more or doing more than they do. 

My prayer is for clarity. May the Lord show each of us how He can best use us for His glory. May our hearts and minds be OPEN to think about the ways we interact with other people. Is there anything we've said to anyone that maybe we should be asking for forgiveness?

Thank you Lord for teaching us how to love and be a light that shines brightly for you. May our words be seasoned with life giving nourishment to all those we come in contact with.